A havening session with me involves:
 

• Discussion
  We talk about what you’d like to achieve, what you’ve been experiencing, and what may be happening. You share only what you’re comfortable with — there’s no pressure to disclose anything.
   

• Explanation and Consent
  I explain exactly what we’ll do and answer any questions. I ask your consent at every stage before anything happens — including whether I apply the touch, or guide you to do it yourself.
   

• The Havening Touch
  I demonstrate the gentle stroking touch on the arms, hands, and face. You choose whether I apply it for you or whether you do it yourself guided by me — both are equally effective.
   

• Havening Rounds
  For a specific event, the touch is applied for 5–7 minutes per round, combined with simple distractions. When working with beliefs, or simply processing feelings, the havening touch continues for as long as needed.
   

• Check In
  After each round I check in with you. Does a memory feel less distressing? Has a belief shifted?  Has something new surfaced that needs attention? Many people are surprised how quickly things shift.
   

• Repeat Until Clear
  If working with a distressing memory, we continue rounds until the stress reaches zero. In other cases we work with what comes up – has a new memory surfaced? Do we need to process feelings? Work with a limiting belief?
   

• Debrief
  We take time to talk about what shifted, what you noticed, and how you feel. Processing can continue for a day or two after your session — this is completely normal and a positive sign.
   

• Review and Next Steps
  We review what was achieved and discuss whether further sessions would be helpful. Many people need only one to a few sessions to experience lasting, meaningful change.